I totally agree with Bubbadog, you need to discuss the problem with your boyfriend before making an appointment to see a therapist. You may think it's a problem for you, but as a man, I can tell you it's a much bigger problem for your boyfriend and more than he would let on!
Most men, especially straight men, really don't like discussing things like this, especially with a complete stranger!
It's going to take a lot of understanding and support on your part, and a lot of patience!
Don't make him think it's a big deal to you, because that's just going to cause him more anxiety and make the problem worse!
Maybe you could spend more time on foreplay and not worry about 'the other'!?
There's a lot of pressure on Straight men to 'perform' and give the woman pleasure as well as himself, and that's not fair, sex should work in both directions!
Try having a night that's all about him and giving him pleasure, take time, have a little romance first and don't rush into it, a long, sensual massage first can do wonders (I'm Gay and I lost my virginity to a woman that way!?) let him lay back and enjoy it and you may be pleasantly surprised!?
Good luck with it!
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