Trust

Hi,
I am new to this site and am slowly but surely getting to know where the forum,s are etc,
I am mid way through a divorce after 25yrs,sadly although my soon to be ex knew when he met me that i had health issue,s, after 25yrs he told me 2wk,s b4 christmas he wanted a normal woman whatever that mean,s??, my question is do you find it hard to trust someone you,ve just met or go with the flow and hope things will go the way you hope they will?
I,m not looking for \"mr right\" i just want someone i can share my life with who won,t hurt or belittle me because i can,t do the same things most able bodied people can do,i have very mild c.p and other health issue,s i have i feel wasted 25yrs of my life with a man who took me from being a confident no nosense woman to a needy woman who sought everyone,s approval,now? well i,m back slowly but surely i,m back to being me.
Do any of you who read this feel you are treated differently by partner,s or do you find yourself self annalising yourself wondering how people view you as a person? i would value some imput from other members.

Hi and welcome to the site Angel,What can I say I am sorry you have wasted 25 years on a man who never understood! I believe that everyone will find their solemate eventually, I was in a bad relationship before I met my husband.I had decided to say no to boyfriends/husbands and went out with a mate and there he was wollop! And now I have been with him 27 odd years!!Its a cause of sometimes you don't need to be trying hard to find love, it will find you. You sound like a lovely woman with a big heart to give to someone. And out there their is the perfect solemate for everyone. I say stop trying hard to find Mr Right, Relax,get your mojo back, enjoy being you for a change and I'm sure you'll meet lots of new friends and one day meet Mr Right for you!

This isn,t amanda is it??? if it is it,s maria from the other site!!!, i,ve had my friend who,s just joined today but used my name to introduce herself!!! she,s called mad nat she,s a crazy so and so but is a true friend,as for another man? well i don,t think will ever want a wreck like me,i thought i had met someone but it turn,s out he was just like the rest of em,i hope you are well and thank you for you message maria x

Hi Maria, Yes it is Amanda!! I am so sorry you had another bad experience with a man:( , but I still stand by what I say! Maybe you are giving off easy target signals to a man!:dry: When you are out and about you need to be more assertive, I used to be like that give off wrong signals. I went on a course for assertiveness training with my old work, as we needed it being eastate agents! esspecially when we went out on viewings as a woman on your own:kiss: . And after it a new Whole Amanda was born a different person, a person I liked!:evil: So maybe you need to find an assertiveness training course they do them at collages,hotels,and community centres. Glad your on here hun, we can stay in touch more now, chat soon.:kiss:

Amanda i cannot thank you enough for telling me about this site, you are a very big star!! and YES! i mean it,you are right what you said and i may have found another person {man} to share my life with, it was purely by accident that i met him, i know it sounds corny but it was a wrong number?? his name is davy, he has been through similer trial,s like me he is mid way through a divorce, at the moment we,re just talking, it may not come to anything but i have to say it,s nice being able to talk to a man, especally a man going through the same as me, he lives in essex and has his own business, as yet i haven,t sent him any pictures because i,m not very good looking,he has told me look,s arn,t everything in my heart i know he,s right but after being told for over 25yrs that i,m ugly and, \"no man will ever put up with you the way i have!\" your self esteem takes a long time to come back,my friend lives down the road from him and is going to pass him a message from me if he choose,s to continue our chat,s then who knows what may happen?? so i thought i would update you.
Again THANK YOU!! so very much godbless maria x

You are very welcome Maria! It's nice that I have helped one person,at least I have one happy customer!:laugh: I wish in my heart you would stop putting yourself down!I bet you a million pounds you are not ugly!None of us look like these models and actresses you wanna know why? They have there faces airbrushed before having there faces put on magazines and movies!Bet they look like you and me in the morning! So stop putting you down!And even if you aren't an oil painting it's what is in the inside what counts. And I bet this fella will feel the same, remember he is just talking to you at the moment and he is still wanting to get to know you he woun't throw that away when he does meet you! You never know it might be you who doesn't like him after you meet!!:unsure:So stop putting yourself down or I will keep sending you terrible jokes!!:sick: Keep me updated on this fella, I must go shopping for a new hat! Glad to hear you happy hun you deserve it!stay in touch hun, take care.x