taboo topic? Sex for disabled people and partners

Some very cogent comments here. Going down the sex worker route is fine as long as your expectations are low enough to prevent disappointment and your overall confidence is high enough to allow excitement to overcome apprehension. You will be making a deal with a stranger some of whom are not particularly ethical or caring or even good at sex!
The upside is that the best are good at all three. I have never made use of the professional girl but have known a few as friends and once had a sex surrogate for a partner. She was superb at her job it was reported to me and our own sex life made it easy for me to believe. In case anyone is interested, no I wasn't jealous finding it easy to separate her job from our love for each other.
Mutual exploration of all the possibilities inherent to a relationship is the safer option, at least initially. I have had a great deal of experience in advising the sexually and emotionally isolated in the past the general advice is to socialise and try not come across as needy.
I have supported and hosted lunches run by The Outsiders Club (in the past) and recommend that you at least take a look at them online. Stateside there is possibly an equivalent.
Good luck in your endeavour!

BUBBADOG14 wrote:

Sandie wrote: Since I lost my husband I have always depended on my eldest son or my grandson to escort me to any event of my choice, recently both were unavailable so I hired an escort mainly to get me there and back home again as I dont drive, they sent this guy round, well dressed about 40 and very good looking, when he asked me at the end of the night if I required extras I must admit I was tempted but then in the cold light of day I think I would have regretted it.

In a way it's lucky you didn't because he would have charged you for it and that sort of thing could have been expensive!! I'm sure you would prefer to give yourself to someone who has the same feelings for you rather than an escort who would treat you like a piece of meat not a human being honey.

I thought to myself if I can't pull a bloke these days I will do without, I have a few male friends and enjoy going out to lunch etc, my husband would be a hard act to follow anyway, I shall sit back and see what develops :lol:

Sandie wrote:

BUBBADOG14 wrote:

Sandie wrote: Since I lost my husband I have always depended on my eldest son or my grandson to escort me to any event of my choice, recently both were unavailable so I hired an escort mainly to get me there and back home again as I dont drive, they sent this guy round, well dressed about 40 and very good looking, when he asked me at the end of the night if I required extras I must admit I was tempted but then in the cold light of day I think I would have regretted it.

In a way it's lucky you didn't because he would have charged you for it and that sort of thing could have been expensive!! I'm sure you would prefer to give yourself to someone who has the same feelings for you rather than an escort who would treat you like a piece of meat not a human being honey.

I thought to myself if I can't pull a bloke these days I will do without, I have a few male friends and enjoy going out to lunch etc, my husband would be a hard act to follow anyway, I shall sit back and see what develops :lol:

You are a lovely woman Sandie and a good friend I think any man who you meet is going to be a very lucky man but I'm sure he has a hard job living up to the standards your husband left.

why is it so bad to just want a cudddle & some enjoyment..friendships & more often start with a cuddle & a kiss..

seems cuddler therapist is harder to find in my area than i thought..

It isn't bad to want the things you ask about, that's a given. Unfortunately the residue of religious so-called morality has a strong influence over the minds of many individuals and true compassion and empathy are rare attributes in the majority. All that is a long-winded way of saying people take a negative view of the sexual/emotional needs of others.
Take steps to find what you need it may be with a lover, a friend or you may have to pay, this is the only life you have if it hurts no-one take what you can and give what you have. Take a look at the website TLC Trust.

Now that is so exciting....

TLCtrust is an amazing concept....I really like the way they are embracing the conceptthat the disabled being is a sexual being the same as any other person and certainly deserve the experience that most take for granted.

I embrace this totally. If I could I would set something up like this in my own country....in order to make those that have disabilities feel comfortable finding what they need...