Dating people with disabilities

Dating is hard for anyone at the best of times but to have a disability is bloody harder - prejudices are just a couple of things that can hold people back from pursuing a relationship. But when it comes to the game of dating, it seems that the rules are changing:ohmy: – the internet is allowing members of the disabled community to communicate and make friends online, and society is gradually becoming more accepting of people’s differences. As a result there are more opportunities for disabled people:) , who should increasingly feel able to date with freedom and confidence.

Personally, before the internet and txting, I couldn't use the phone as Im not very understandible. So it was bloody hard to find new friends especially females:(

So Technology is helping me as I can give out my phone number because I can text without any help. But not a good thing when you are sending 500 txts per month. Big phone bills.

Im 35 now and I still looking for the special one who doesn't see my disability as a barrier.<br><br>Post edited by: Able_Here_Team, at: 2007/11/29 22:16

Hi there,

I wish you luck in your quest, in finding love. The net is indeed opening the door for disabiled people, it is how I have met my present partner. It works !

Naomi:)

hummm - well good luck to you - all i find is mention the word \&quot;disabled \&quot; and what few ladies are interested in us older guys - run a mile - i guess they think we all want a care giver or something - or as one i came across told me \&quot; oh you would not do my social standing any good \&quot; ( nice eh )

sorry if this all sounds a tad cynical - but i speak from experience - unfortunately

but if you do find someone - then every happyness to you

brett .

well i think you were and are better off with out that kind of person in your life. I never thought i would fall in love, but I have and my partner has Spondylitis so we both understand eachother very well.

A disabled female finding someone is easier than a disabled male.

Society has conditioned females to \&quot;marry up\&quot;, that is, females look for males who are stronger, wealthier, have better jobs, than women do. A disabled man is viewed as being less of the stereotypical male.

On the other hand, able-bodied males, that are enlightened, may see it fit to date disabled females.

The above scenario may not be politically correct, but it may reflect the actuality. It's also consistent with animal behavior, where the strongest, healthiest male animal wins the affection of the female during the mating season.

My nmae is Richard I haven't had a date for month but when I do meet someone I tell that I have disabilies and thy seem to drop you for some reason.

can someone tell me why I can't find a date is it because preople with out disabilies find it hard to relate to them or is that thy think that thy would get the disability if you slepped with them.

I even try other Web soitews that are free you only get girl from the african country not your own couyntry contacting you has anyone elses had that felling.

Richard Chisholm

This issue for me has come up a lot lately and a few of us was talkin abt it the other nite in the chat room.

I was readin a pervious posts on this and I have to disagree with the statement that 'womesn find it easier to find a parnter' I think it equally hard for both sexes. This comes from pervious experience:

I have recently beenin talk to a guy... we spoke abt my disability and how it effected me... he said he didnt have a problem with it and that it just another part of me... but hes not spoke to me in the same way since... it feels as if these a barrier between us that was never there b4... what makes it worst is that he was diabled himself and now I feel like a 'disabled person cant accept another disabled person'... which makes me wonder will I have find that right person who will accept me for me.
I now find it hard to tell people coz am scared of their reaction but I feel like am bein dishonest if I dont tell them so I do and hope for the best but it seems that the more I try to be honest the more it gets thrown back in my face.
:dry: :blush: :huh:

Emma x

Emma you come across as a very honest person ..if the man who was also disabled changed then he is not the one for you ..better to find out straight away then be badly hurt later on down the line...anybody can lie..it takes a lot of courage to be honest.. big hugs to you

Karl wrote:

Im 35 now and I still looking for the special one who doesn't see my disability as a barrier.


It takes time to find that special person and I no that these still prob a lot of heart ache to come before that time comes if not great.
I see it has if people cant accept my disablity then they cant accept me and if they cant do that then there no worth it. people are no better then anyone else so we sudnt be treated that way and I cant be doin with people that think that they are.

I hope that one day people do find that special person with very minimal heartache and hurt in they life. Every one desevres to find love

This seems to be a major topic of conversation for all of us at one time or another. People cant see my disability until i actually stand and walk or try to lol. It has made some conversations while out very funny for me. Do i feel bad? Hell no! If some guy thinks my face is attractive and says im great to talk to and sits with me for ages i let him as i always get the last laugh. In my opinion i think personal strenth has a lot to do with it. I dont care for social standing as with the shallow lady Brett met. She,s a fool as that wont get her a nice man at all. I happen to think im a smart intelligent nice person and i reckon if a guy gets me he,ll be happy cos i give my all. Persevere my friends we all have the right and the need to be loved! I hope in the end we all are happy. XX

TheLadyMagenta wrote:

This seems to be a major topic of conversation for all of us at one time or another. People cant see my disability until i actually stand and walk or try to lol. It has made some conversations while out very funny for me. Do i feel bad? Hell no! If some guy thinks my face is attractive and says im great to talk to and sits with me for ages i let him as i always get the last laugh. In my opinion i think personal strenth has a lot to do with it. I dont care for social standing as with the shallow lady Brett met. She,s a fool as that wont get her a nice man at all. I happen to think im a smart intelligent nice person and i reckon if a guy gets me he,ll be happy cos i give my all. Persevere my friends we all have the right and the need to be loved! I hope in the end we all are happy. XX

Ill raise a Glass in toast to those words xxxx;)

And i,ll join you tony hun! XX