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Re:Being single 11 years 10 months ago #634

There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. You can be in a crowd of people at Grand Central Station and still feel lonely. You might use the word alone when you describe the situation: \"I feel so alone.\" However, you're in Grand Central freaking Station. You're not alone. You're lonely.
Maybe your job sent you on a trip to a foreign country. You're in a comfortable hotel, and just down stairs there's a lobby and a bar and a restaurant.. Maybe you're in a major metropolitan area. A real tourist trap with hundreds of thousands of people within spitting distance from your window. However, your spouse and your kids and your family and your friends and everyone you hold dear is on the other side of the ocean, or maybe the whole planet. You might be alone in your hotel room, but you're not alone in the world. You may however, feel lonely.

You can also be the only person in your house, and you haven't been with anyone notable for awhile and you don't plan to be with anyone notable for the forseeable future. Maybe it doesn't bother you. Maybe you meant for this to happen. Maybe you need to work on a project of some sort and need no distractions so you can concentrate. Maybe you're going to write that novel you've been meaning to write all your life. Maybe you need to do your taxes. Doesn't matter. The point is, you're alone and it doesn't bother you at all. You chose to be alone. You're comfortable with yourself and who you are. You're alone but you're not lonely.

It's uncomfortable to be lonely, but if you're not alone you can usually do something about it. If you're alone but not lonely, there's no problem at all, is there? The thing to avoid is being alone and lonely at the same time. That is perhaps the greatest trap to anything living.

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Re:Being single 11 years 10 months ago #746

I suppose being alone and being lonely comes and goes. When you have things to do you tend not to notice so much how alone you maybe. Sometimes if something good happens, or bad and you only want to tell someone maybe the special someone and you are alone then it can hit home. Sometimes i feel lonely sometimes i don't i would rather have someone in my life i get on with then be with someone just because i'm lonely.:)[/color]

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Re:Being single 11 years 10 months ago #749

Good point, Demeter. I am often alone, but I rarely feel lonely. It really depends on the person. ;)

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Re:Being single 11 years 9 months ago #937

i truly believe that men dislike being single less than women. That's sad for women. :(

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Re:Being single 11 years 9 months ago #949

In fact, says DePaulo, \"many single women are living lives of secret contentment.\"

Myth #2 Single women are lonely.

Reality: Everyone is lonely sometimes—even married people. But most single women (as well as women with spouses) actually enjoy their solitude.

www.aarpmagazine.org/lifestyle/single_women.html

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Re:Being single 11 years 9 months ago #951

many married can co-habiate and are constantly lonesome. They never become true friends nor communicate. :blink:

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Re:Being single 11 years 9 months ago #997

There is a big difference between Marriage and Cohabitation. For information regarding marriage, cohabitation and civil partnerships, go to: www.direct.gov.uk/en/RightsAndResponsibilities/DG_10026937 <br><br>Post edited by: DAEMONICUSMEDICUS, at: 2007/10/23 18:04

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Re:Being single 11 years 9 months ago #1093

you misunderstood my last post, demon.......sheece........do i write that ineffectively? :laugh:

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Re:Being single 11 years 9 months ago #1230

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.......married....cohabiting ....single.....????

.......being lonely comes from within the person

.......i feel lonely on those days when i feel good and able to get out to some function or other, but want to share it with someone else, but all those close to me have something else on.....sometimes i dont like doing things just me , myself and i..;)

....xx suzan xx....:)

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Re:Being single 11 years 9 months ago #1284

no it's not easy being single i'm still looking for a nice guy who is not shallow stuck on themselves because i'm not

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Re:being single 11 years 7 months ago #2021

hang in there stevey. shes not worth it.i know what you mean about being stuckk inside.where do you live.

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Re:being single 11 years 7 months ago #2031

i live in ENGLAND WHICH in itself is frustrating as i would like to have had a face to face chat with you :) :)

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