well a bigger bummer is being widowed - i was a dedicated singleton till i met the woman of my dreams and then lost her to cancer after only 4.5 years - so now am \"single \" again and hating every Minuit of it - add to that being older and disabled and social life is somewhat non existent - and so called friends .............. phaaaaaaa
so if you have some one or even some real friends - treasure them - for they are worth more than all the riches of the world
I've been single after a very bad thing happen to any one. So I might I've seen one guy since then but being single isn't to back til you meet rhe right guy. I just don't know if I'll ever meet that guy again!
I ended a very flawed marriage 18 months ago. I am not generally lonely and am quite happy with my life. BUT I enjoy theater and that is not something to do alone. I also would like to get dressed up and go out for a special meal. Being honest I also miss that special time once the children have gone to bed and sharing a cuddle or little bits of news from the day.
I would like a special person in my life but I now enjoy my independence and self reliance so much I doubt I want a live in partner again.
Today I find myself single after recently ending a long distance relationship. The good side is the feeling of freedom and independence and getting to know people again including myself. But there are feelings of loneliness. They do pass but i think we all get hungry for conversation and cuddles. Paralyzed I feel closer to disabled women or women who are involved in the disabled community. Seems to always be when the times right a woman will come into my life so just living in the day right now working on my Harley.
Only ever known being single, THAT sucks! It doesn't get better with time like most things either, just gets worse and worse. You watch your friends go through their relationships, marry, have kids, grow as people. For some people like me that can lead to disconnects and before you know it you're venting on forums such as these
having someone to give your heart and soul to and having friends are worlds appart, esspecially if that special friend doesnt notice you as you want them to.
I was dumped after seven years because I suddenly needed
to use a wheelchair and my other half found it embarrassing being out and about with a Cripple as she so delecately put it.
Ive been on my own nearly 15 years now partly because having custody of my son was my first consideration
he had to have a stable enviroment in his upbringing and if I wss to be in and out of relationships that wouldn't be stable would it.
when he was 3 years old he went to live with my parents because my disability became much worse and I struggled to cope then I was completely alone, except for carers popping in every now and then.
Now he has grown up got a job and settled down himself I wonder where al the time went and do miss being in a relationship a lot The walls seem so empty compared to the old days when there were five kids running around the house it is not a nice experience comming home to an empty house if you are used to be part of a family unit.
A comment I saw on this site somewhere else was people still dont see past your disability.
my Son lives with his girlfriend who is disabled and I admire him for that so much.
I think we are entering into a new world where partners can be more selective about their prospective partners and having children we have genetic enginering rattling around in the background whereby in the future parents will be able to select the best genes or the partner with the intelligence or looks to manufacture the perfect looking most intelligent child.
if you are disabled people dont look for the qualities inside (a good heart) they look at the wheelchair or the calipers or the walking stick or the walking frame.
this puts us at a disadvantage to begin with and if your confidence is easily knocked this can make us lonley people. appolagies for dragging down the tone of the thread but i think much of this is still true even in modern times.<br><br>Post edited by: oojimmyflip, at: 2010/11/01 20:16