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When people give you problems because they don't know anything about depression 7 months 3 days ago #69960

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So, tired of hearing why don't you get a job...
Or snap out of it...
Or can't you get over it...
The reason I don't talk to anyone about my stuff..
Any thoughts...
Or, it's not a real disability...
Clueless people out there...
Any ideas on how we can change this...
Thanks...

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When people give you problems because they don't know anything about depression 7 months 3 days ago #69961

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Ignor, and if a friend, well they were never your friend to begin with.

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When people give you problems because they don't know anything about depression 7 months 2 days ago #69964

Most people just don't know what depression actually is. They think it is just sadness.

It is more than this. A sad person can switch to happy within a few minutes, depending on what is happening in their environment (maybe they were sad because they lost their dog, but found it and got happy and relieved). A depressed person cannot switch from depressed to not-depressed nearly as fast, as there are physical and chemical changes to the brain that need to change before the depression begins easing. I don't know how to magically balance neurotransmitters instantly; do you? I don't know how to fix a brain.

When people are clueless, take the opportunity to educate them. Point out the physical, chemical, solid problems behind depression; explain why it is different from merely being "sad" and why it might take a while to repair yourself and heal.

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When people give you problems because they don't know anything about depression 7 months 2 days ago #69965

Sadly there isn't anyway to change ignorance! Some people are just hard wired to be that way. No education or even television programme can change their thought process. I have a step-sister who is clinically depressed and has tried to hold down a job and just can't do it, some days she can't get out of bed and I have a Brother in law who has depression and has even tried to take his life so I understand how over whelming depression can be. I've come across people who say to me why don't you get a job and it angers me as I would happily work if I could because I miss going out to work, I tried holding down a part-time job but I get so exhausted quickly if I do too much (which isn't a lot!) and need to sleep, also when my pain flares up I need to rest and end up in bed for several days! Also exhaustion brings on my seizure's which can then bring on a migraine so as you see just can't do it!! So rather than explain this to some ignorant person I take a deep breath and move on by. They are not worth your time or tears!

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When people give you problems because they don't know anything about depression 6 months 3 days ago #70130

My former employer used to feel sorry for some of our customers who had mental illnesses, but when it came to me and my depression, he didn't understand, he told me that everyone gets depressed, he couldn't understand that there is a difference between being depressed and having depression! Clinical Depression is a mental illness and it took me a long time to accept it myself, so I get really P****d at people who don't try to understand! People who are simply depressed over something in particular don't usually try to off themselves with booze and pills (been there, tried that) being clinically depressed is being depressed and usually not knowing why, it is a state of mind that you have no control over and it can be very debilitating and leaves you feeling very isolated!

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When people give you problems because they don't know anything about depression 1 month 3 weeks ago #70877

i feel just the same as you i had a person one day say to you need a good kick up the backside you do. They have no idea them talking to you like that is not going to make you feel any better in fact it will make you feel even worse about the way you are as if like me your start thinking no body understands me whats the point in being here. That how i felt and it can also be very dangerous too especially if that person is thinking of ending their life. There should be a lot more information that people get to know what clinical depression is. Its not something your just fed up for a day and tomorrow if you sleep on it your feel better depression does not work like this.

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When people give you problems because they don't know anything about depression 1 month 3 weeks ago #70882

The U.K has dedicated this month to mental health with a header of 'Time to talk' which they hope will get people opening up with friends or loved ones about how they are feeling. And EastEnders has recently had a story line with the Character Bex Fowler having a hard time after getting into University and all the pressures related to it and finding it hard to open to friends and family about her feelings. And it comes to a head at her leaving party when she tries to take her own life. It was very hard hitting and got the U.K hitting social media and people actually opening up saying they felt like her and are going to talk to someone. So hopefully this month might make a change and more young people and adults may talk to a friend or a loved one rather than do something awful. Here's hoping.

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When people give you problems because they don't know anything about depression 1 month 3 weeks ago #70890

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In the USA Laws & Regulations The Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) prohibits discrimination against people with disabilities in several areas, including employment, transportation, public accommodations, communications and access to state and local government’ programs and services.

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