Being single

Today I find myself single after recently ending a long distance relationship. The good side is the feeling of freedom and independence and getting to know people again including myself. But there are feelings of loneliness. They do pass but i think we all get hungry for conversation and cuddles. Paralyzed I feel closer to disabled women or women who are involved in the disabled community. Seems to always be when the times right a woman will come into my life so just living in the day right now working on my Harley.

Only ever known being single, THAT sucks! It doesn't get better with time like most things either, just gets worse and worse. You watch your friends go through their relationships, marry, have kids, grow as people. For some people like me that can lead to disconnects and before you know it you're venting on forums such as these :S

Being single is fine, but feeling alone is different. A person can be with someone thay love and also feel so alone if not for the right reasons.

being single is nice for awhile then it gets boring and lonely but u shouldnt have to be with someone to be happy. being with someone just means u can be happyier in life.

Tell your problems about being single to Harri as he is doing a TV programme about it.

www.ablehere.com/index.php?option=com_jo...2&catid=22#31852

having someone to give your heart and soul to and having friends are worlds appart, esspecially if that special friend doesnt notice you as you want them to.

I was dumped after seven years because I suddenly needed
to use a wheelchair and my other half found it embarrassing being out and about with a Cripple as she so delecately put it.

Ive been on my own nearly 15 years now partly because having custody of my son was my first consideration
he had to have a stable enviroment in his upbringing and if I wss to be in and out of relationships that wouldn't be stable would it.

when he was 3 years old he went to live with my parents because my disability became much worse and I struggled to cope then I was completely alone, except for carers popping in every now and then.

Now he has grown up got a job and settled down himself I wonder where al the time went and do miss being in a relationship a lot The walls seem so empty compared to the old days when there were five kids running around the house it is not a nice experience comming home to an empty house if you are used to be part of a family unit.
A comment I saw on this site somewhere else was people still dont see past your disability.

my Son lives with his girlfriend who is disabled and I admire him for that so much.
I think we are entering into a new world where partners can be more selective about their prospective partners and having children we have genetic enginering rattling around in the background whereby in the future parents will be able to select the best genes or the partner with the intelligence or looks to manufacture the perfect looking most intelligent child.

if you are disabled people dont look for the qualities inside (a good heart) they look at the wheelchair or the calipers or the walking stick or the walking frame.
this puts us at a disadvantage to begin with and if your confidence is easily knocked this can make us lonley people. appolagies for dragging down the tone of the thread but i think much of this is still true even in modern times.<br><br>Post edited by: oojimmyflip, at: 2010/11/01 20:16

Karl, i am mid way through a divorce and i have now been alone for just over 2 and a half years.

I found at first that i was very alone shortly afterwards though i thought, well i,ve still got my son then my son moved out within 6 months of his dad leavin, yet again i was alone,however i am now alone once more,i find that i now have total control over the remote control and i can watch what i want when i want!!

On the other hand i do miss having a man in my life,i miss being cuddled,i miss having someone to talk to and i do notice that friend,s i knew before have all but dissapeared,{ they think i,ll take their husband,s and boyfriends}so now i,m looking to meet more people men and women and make new friends, i do like being single but if i,m honest i do miss having a partner off the opposite sex.

Being single can be fun at times, but also can get quite lonely, some nights you just want someone to cuddle ...but at least being single is alot less stress

Sometimes being single can be painful too!

I wholeheartedly agree with alot of the points being made on this,it is in all of our human natures to love and be loved in a powerful way,so we try at it..and sometimes it just doesn't work,but we can't let that part of us die and give up..we all just have to keep trying and believe that someone will take you for what you're worth..without failed expectations or secret agendas..I have tryed a few times,and refuse to become jaded and bitter..we should all try and remember that we have value and deserve to be understood and loved.

yah, and even if you have some looks or talent , all these Americans just look at is your wallet, and if you say you get disability ,have one, or any little heath problem, they run like scared rabbits. They're all selfish and want looks, health, fancy own place and car, and if one of these things is missining , you can pretty much leave the country or just masturbate/get a toy.

Being single and divorced and living independently in
wheelchair can have a bad effect on ones mental status
its a very lonely arena without that special someone.