Can't use viagra because of risk to my Aorta (aneurism). I agree making love is better than just having sex but I am talking about the pleasures of masturbation or satisfying a lady who wants me deep inside. That is when the lack of an erection really hurts badly.
I think it is a very good question, to my knowledge ,sex in some disable people is more serious and practicable than normal people ,i know disable people who have a very good physical sex with their wives even their wives confess that their man is more interesting and effective than the normal guy in their sex,
My husband had prostrate cancer and the effects of the operation changed him so
much, he became very depressed feeling useless, it was a long road back for him, he did not manage to complete his journey as cancer in his brain took him from us, he told me many times that he regretted having the operation and would rather have taken his chances with the cancer.
Sandie, I was so sad to read about your husband but understood exactly what he felt like after his operation. I have told very few people how I feel about my inability to maintain an erection or the difficulty I have in achieving an orgasm and cumming.
The few friends, with whom I have shared my feelings, have told me I am being silly and should be pleased to be alive. My wife tells me that she is not concerned about my lack of an erection.
However, none of the sympathy I receive helps me. I am depressed and have little to look forward to during the few years I have left to live. Only those who still have a fully working organ seem to be the ones to state their opinion that sex is not important. They say making love is what matters. I say that they have no idea what it is like to be robbed of one's manhood and how meaningless life can become.
Know exactly what you are saying Dave whilst the emotional side of love making is important us guys are still red blooded and have urges and to have that taken away is something else. But I try to get on with life and stay focussed
Dongle Dave, it saddened me to read your post, I can't advise anything to help sadly but I think you could do with talking to someone. Is there any support groups or counsellor you could chat to.
I know it's easy for me to say these things as I'm a woman and I'm not going through what you are but talking to another gentleman who is going through what you are may help you. Take care.
Thank you to all kind contributors that have proffered support and encouragement.
It is great to have found other members that care and/or have similar issues and I intend to do everything that I can to come to terms with the problem.
You are all very kind.
Hi Dave I have seen this first hand, my husband was an x rugby player and in his younger days sang with a rock n roll group, it destroys men there is not enough advice out there to help in this situation, all I can say is dont let this destroy
what you have with your wife,remember she see's the man she fell in love with, she see's her husband and feels just as she always has about you, to see a loved one brought to his knees by the type of problem that you and many other men have to live with is heartbreaking, stay strong for your family.